When someone in pain comes to see me, their first question is, “what did I do wrong?” My answer is, “it doesn’t matter.”
Guilt, blame and shame are useless – these emotions don’t promote healing. They may cause the person to fixate on the recent or past incident that hurt their back. And then to under or overuse certain parts of their body. This is not helpful.
I simply observe how the person moves and then show them alternatives that promote reintegrating the painful part into the whole. Initially we don’t even discuss any possible weaknesses or habits that may be contributing to their pain. They usually discover these as we work together.